Help and Sexual Advice For Partners

Men can experience no end of sexual problems arising from a number of sources… And it’s not always about his penis! Sexual problems can often be related to stress, guilt (culture and religion are often the culprit) to say nothing of past traumas. Sexual difficulties can often be a sign more serious health problems. For example, apart from natural aging, did you know that erection problems are often the first sign of heart disease, diabetes and high blood pressure? And that’s just the start of it…

A lot of male ‘sex education’ comes from a number of caustic sources… Porn has now become the primary source of sexual education and information for men. Unrealistic sexual expectations. Poor sexual technique. Performance anxiety. Loss of intimacy combined with a diminished ability to connect. The list of negative sexual influence could fill a library.

When it comes to sex, more often than not, his problems are your problems.

It’s also no surprise that such problems won’t just affect him… Research now shows that female sexual problems can begin or be made often be made worse, if male sexual problems are present.

For example, compared to the partners of men without erection problems, partners of men with erectile dysfunction will often report significant decline in sex drive and sexual satisfaction.

Waning levels of sexual desire, arousal, orgasm frequency and sexual satisfaction amongst partners of men with long term sexual dysfunction is not uncommon. This in turn can generate a serious physical, emotional and sexual toll on affected partners and their relationships.

For some men, engaging in sexual activities can remind them of their ‘lack of manliness’, often increasing levels of distress and/or depression over the loss of erection Decreases in levels of sexual activity are often associated with falls in other forms of intimacy, such as kissing, hugging or even just talking. When men will develop a belief that they are no longer capable of ‘performing’ sexually, many will then consider the initiation of any type of sexual contact to be futile, and avoided.

Whether they be male or female, sexual problems will often place an enormous strain on relationship harmony. The good news is that many of these problems need not be permanent. If you or your partner are having sexual difficulties or relationship issues we can help.

So what can a ManFocus Clinic sex therapist do to help you and your partner?

Our sex and relationship counselling service can help both you and your partner with:

  • Opening up the channels of sexual communication. Communicating openly your fears and concerns, and in adapting towards what is inevitably will become a new intimate, and sexually satisfying dynamic.
  • Developing new techniques and strategies that take the focus off erections and will allow you both to find new ways of giving and receiving sexual and non-sexual pleasure and in enhancing levels of relationship intimacy.
  • Knowing what your next steps should be if treatments for erection problems fail to work to plan.