Polyamory is a consensually non-monogamous relationship style, a form of negotiated non-monogamy that is fast becoming a preferred relationship choice for more and more people. Those who practice polyamory are required to maintain communication channels that are larger than those found within typical monogamous relationships.
Open Relationships & Polyamory
Emotionally speaking, unplanned, unguided, polyamory can be a minefield. Polyamory extends well beyond sex. It reaches into the social, psychological and economic wellbeing of the relationship dynamic. It can bring out the best and the worst (think jealousy plus insecurity plus resentment and multiply by 10) in all people and is likely to affect the entire family, not just the consenting adults.
Being in relationships where there are so many variables requires that those engaged are talking about it all the time. Included in this are relationship agreements where all parties involved in the relationship must understand the boundaries or lack thereof within the relationship.
Negotiating a relationship contract is not easy and requires deep levels of communication along with lots of self-awareness. Poly frameworks can be flexible or rigid. There are boundaries and rules that need outlining and from time to time, review and adjustment.
Knowing how to resolve issues is critical. Living arrangements, finances, children, cleaning duties, discrimination, and what is to be done if one party grows out of the relationship… the list of potential complications is endless.
It’s for these and many other reasons that if you’re thinking about entering in to the poly lifestyle or considering transforming your traditional relationship into one that is open, then expert sex and relationship counselling is mandatory. One thing is certain. It can greatly assist you to ensure that the needs of all are well met, and that harmony on as many fronts as possible is more likely.