Delayed ejaculation occurs when a man experiences extreme difficulty or even a total incapacity to achieve ejaculation. It is often associated with considerable psychological suffering and distress and even physical pain, for men and their partners.


Delayed Ejaculation

Delayed ejaculation occurs when a man experiences extreme difficulty or even a total incapacity to achieve ejaculation. Some men are able to ejaculate ‘normally’ on their own, but experience extreme difficulty in climaxing whilst engaging with a partner.

Whilst on the face it, the idea of being able to last longer may seem appealing, however the reality is that delayed ejaculation is often associated with considerable psychological suffering and distress for men and their partners. Some report that prolonged thrusting to achieve orgasm (often to the point of exhaustion) frequently will lead to severe genital discomfort. It is not unusual for such men to eventually avoid engaging in sexual activity all together. Distress is further exacerbated in cases where delayed ejaculation results in sexual partners feeling less sexually attractive because their partner cannot ejaculate easily. Even when such men do eventually climax, they tend to experience sensations of relief rather than pleasure.


Potential causes of delayed ejaculation are numerous. They include both physical and psychological factors including:

  • Having low levels of arousal/ lack of effective sexual stimulation/ sexual boredom
  • Performance anxiety, stress, depression, guilt and/or anger
  • Having emotional difficulties in being able to let go
  • Having a highly distinctive masturbation technique that makes climax via traditional forms of sexual intercourse difficult
  • Use of medications such as some anti-depressants
  • Use of some illicit drugs (e.g. methamphetamines)
  • Medical illness or injury can also produce delays in ejaculation independent of psychological issues. For example, inability to ejaculate can be caused by interruption of the nerve supply to the genitals, such as can occur after traumatic surgical injury

If delayed ejaculation is not addressed and dealt with by a trained and experienced sex therapist, chances are that the condition will become progressively becomes worse, and long-lasting.

Depending upon its cause, much can be done in order to successfully treat delayed ejaculation. Our experience shows that however that delayed ejaculation tends more successfully resolved when both men and their partners seek therapy from an experienced specialist sex therapist. Our sex therapy and relationship counselling services can show you and your partner, how to overcome psychological barriers, and increase degrees of sexual stimulation thereby allowing your sensations of sexual arousal to progress smoothly towards orgasm.